Everyone can start a relationship, but the real question is: “Can you be proud to say that you are in a successful relationship?” A successful relationship can eventually lead to a successful marriage.
That’s why I’ve decided to share my 10 tips for building a successful relationship that may lead to marriage. It’s important to clarify that when I refer to a successful relationship, I don’t mean one that has been free of problems or disagreements. Instead, I am talking about a relationship characterized by mutual understanding and genuine love.
Without further ado, let’s explore the 10 tips for building a successful relationship that can lead to marriage.
1. Always be real:
In a relationship, the most important thing is to be genuine with your partner. When I talk about a successful relationship, I don’t mean one where you pretend to love someone just to fulfill your selfish desires.
Always stand by your words and be sincere when you say “I love you.” That phrase is easy to say but difficult to uphold, so please use it thoughtfully and not just for fun.
2. Don’t be selfish:
Learn to do what is right in your relationship, and avoid being selfish, as it can lead to its destruction. Here are some examples to consider:
– Instead of expecting your partner to be perfect, focus on how you can be a perfect partner for them.
– Rather than only asking for what you want, take the time to consider what your partner wants, as we all have needs and desires.
– Instead of doubting your partner’s love for you, reflect on your own feelings. Ask yourself if you truly love them and to what extent. Remember, we all need love and care, regardless of our gender.
3. Never get tired of your partner:
You will agree with me that most relationships fade up as time goes on and sweeter when starting new but the truth is that you should try to control your mind because you only feel tired and less interest simply because your feelings tend to increase on the things not tested than tested one’s but control your mind by telling yourself that “whatever you are going to get on the new relationship is what you are already enjoying with your current lover” and remember “the devil you know is better than the angel you don’t know” if you become tired with you current love today for just no cause you will as well become tired with your new lover.
I will also tell you again that what you are looking to find in “B” look well you will still see it in “A” this word is mainly for men because they always get tired when they get used to a particular woman and if you do things like that then you are missing something because there is nothing so sweet in a relationship than having one woman that loves you with all her heart, you will have much enjoyment and less confusion and unnecessary spending of your time and resources.
4. Our relationship requires concentration:
I recently posted on my Facebook page titled Nigerian women “Being in a relationship is like a full-time job, don’t apply for it if you are not ready!” and yes to build and maintain a successful relationship is not as simple as you think it requires a lot of things from you and I suggest you involve yourself only when you are ready for it.
5. Always be appreciative:
If you’re not someone who frequently expresses gratitude, it’s important to start today. Saying “thank you” is very significant; even God appreciates it when we show gratitude, and it encourages more blessings in our lives.
Additionally, take a moment to look into your partner’s eyes and express how happy you are to have them in your life. Tell them that they make you feel complete and fulfilled. These words are often overlooked, but they are crucial for strengthening your relationship and ensuring it flourishes.
6. Never stop saying I love you if you do:
When was the last time you looked at your partner’s face and called them the sweetest names you could think of, telling them, “I love you”? The phrase “I love you” is very important in any relationship, yet many partners often forget to express it. In long-lasting relationships, it’s essential not to tire of saying “I love you,” as this helps maintain a healthy connection.
7. Your manner of approach matters:
Some relationships failed today simply because they lack a good manner of approach, you just don’t say everything the way you feel like but be polite in your kind of words to avoid creating problems where there is no problem.
8. Never use the word MUST:
The truth is that the word “must” has caused many problems, including divorces, in relationships. That’s why it’s important to avoid using that word with your partner. There are certainly more constructive ways to address issues instead of resorting to “must.”
A relationship shouldn’t be treated like a political event, and your partner isn’t your opponent. You’re not competing against each other, so there’s no need to use the word “must” when there are more considerate ways to communicate your desires.
The best way to encourage your partner to do something is through gentle persuasion rather than force. If gentle persuasion doesn’t work, try to find moments when your partner is particularly happy and use that to help them see your point of view.
For example, I never use the phrase “you must” in any situation, even if I wish someone would do something. So, learn to communicate with kindness and avoid using “you must.”
9. Learn how to use the word WE and not I:
It’s important to demonstrate to your partner that they are a significant part of your life. If you truly love them, you should plan your future together. When thinking about your future, use the word “we” instead of “I.” This simple shift will create meaning, hope, and a sense of shared future in your relationship.
10. Every relationship must have a purpose:
If someone asks you, “Do you love her/him?” your answer might be “probably yes.” But what if they follow up with, “Why are you in a relationship with him or her?” Are you considering marriage, or is it just about keeping things going?
It’s important to have answers to these questions, as they can help you set boundaries in your relationship and avoid unnecessary regrets in the future.
Here are ten tips to help you build a healthy relationship that not only has the potential to lead to marriage but also ensures long-term success.